DATING VIOLENCE CAN HAPPEN TO ANYONE!

LGBTQ teens face added stress.

Being lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender or queer can mean added stress for teens like you. While teens in general experience more stress fitting in, cramming homework in before the big game, and trying to memorize information that we think we'll never use again, LGBTQ teens face even more challenges due to homophobia. A lot of people think that there is less abuse in LGBTQ relationships because the partnership is more "equal." That is a myth; LGBTQ teens have plenty more to deal with than the power of gender.

In fact, according to Break the Cycle up to 50% of people who identify as LGBTQ will experience abuse at the hands of their bf/gf. People that already experience discrimination because of their dating preference can internalize the prejudice, mostly without realizing it. With a fear that there is no one who might understand and therefore no way to deal with it, hurt and anger can be directed at a partner.

So what can you do?

While it's tough to bring up dating violence in general, it can be even tougher to do it to an LGBTQ teen because of the fear that people may find out before they are ready to come out. This is often what a partner may use to threaten or coerce another partner. Recognize the signs---look for changes in attitude and self-esteem; school attendance or performance; mood; and sleeping, eating, and social patterns. Notice how your friend is talking to their partner. Are the texts or phone calls out of control? Is your friend's partner always checking up on them or not allowing them to spend time with friends and family? Check out any bruises or marks and question explanations that don't add up.

The most important thing you can do is be a nonjudgmental listener. Ask questions, express concern and offer resources. If you feel you don't have the skills to help them out, find someone who can. Here are some helpful resources, always remember to contact an adult if you feel your friend is in trouble.

Communities United Against Violence of California (CUAV): Diverse volunteers and staff are available 24 hours a day, 365 days a year to support LGBTQQ people facing harassment, threats, attacks, and abuse. Phone: (415) 777-5500; 24 Hour Support Line: (415) 333-HELP Click here for their website!

Another Closet: Domestic Violence in Gay and Lesbian Relationships: Offers referrals for the person experiencing the abuse, support for friends and family of a LGBTQ person experiencing abuse, and personal stories. Click here to check it out!

The Northwest Network: A network of bisexual, trans, lesbian & gay survivors of abuse.Check it out!

Show Me Love DC: Show Me Love DC is a campaign to raise awareness about healthy relationships and provide resources for LGBTQ survivors of intimate partner violence. Click here for their website!

Have additional questions? Call the National Teen Dating Violence Hotline 24/7! 1-800-799-7233

(Information from Livestrong.com)