Scene: Your bf is talking to Jessica in 2nd hour and then walks out of class with her laughing because she dropped her planner for the second time that day. You see them together and you get an uneasy feeling in your stomach. That feeling is jealousy, and it’s perfectly normal. How you react to that feeling determines whether you are a jealousy monster or a cool gf.
If you tease your bf and brush it off because you have nothing to worry about-I mean he’s with you not her right?-then you’re a cool gf.
If you yell at him and start asking questions like “Why were you flirting with her?” or “Why don’t you think I’m pretty?” then you are a jealousy monster!! What can you do to make your relationship healthy?
-Own your feelings! Jealousy has nothing to do with your bf/gf, it has everything to do with how you feel about yourself.
-Tackle your insecurity. Jealousy is a form of insecurity. Tell your bf/gf how you really feel and don’t expect those feelings to go away overnight. For the most part, jealousy shows that you have low self esteem. Know that you are worthwhile!
-Learn from the past and deal with what’s real. Realize that getting upset for no reason won’t help your situation. Look back to how this has damaged your relationships in the past.
-Get help from your bf/gf and your friends. Let them help keep you in check.
-If you can talk yourself into jealousy, you can talk yourself out of it. Don’t let your imagination run wild with thoughts. Calm yourself down by thinking, “Yea that girl was looking at my bf but I have no evidence that he wants to date her instead of me.”
Remember, it’s totally cool to be a little jealous and it may even be a little flattering, but don’t become a jealousy monster and destroy your relationship! That's just straight up unhealthy!
