Are you treating your bf/gf right? Check yourself with this quiz!

1. Do you ever get upset when your partner spends time with their family or friends without you?

2. Have you ever checked your partner’s phone or text messages without them knowing?

3. During past disagreements with your partner, have you been able to discuss problems calmly and resolve them together?

4. Have you ever tried to convince your partner to be more sexual with you?

5. In your opinion, is it ever ok to keep certain things private from your partner?

See how you scored:

1. If you answered YES: In a healthy relationship, it is important for both partners to respect each other’s space and their relationships with others. Discouraging or preventing a partner from seeing family or friends is controlling and unfair. Trying to control your partner is a warning sign for abusive behavior.

2. If you answered YES: Checking someone’s messages without their permission violates their privacy and their trust in you. If you are checking up on them because you suspect they are cheating it is best to be direct and talk about it.

3. If you answered NO: Healthy communication involves listening to each other during disagreements and communicating in a calm manner. Walking away from discussions or choosing not to resolve problems will deteriorate your relationship. Yelling and cussing are always inappropriate and are abusive methods of communication.

4. If you answered YES: A healthy sexual relationship means that both partners agree to and feel comfortable with sexual activity. Trying to pressure, convince, or beg a partner to have sex is unhealthy and shows disrespect for your partner’s boundaries and feelings. Using force or threats to have sex is sexual assault or rape.

5. If you answered NO: Although honesty is an important part of a healthy relationship, we are not entitled to know everything about the people we date. Everyone has the right to keep certain things private. It is, however, always best to be honest about things that affect the relationship. These are things that need to be shared.

Quiz from: teenrelationships.org

Are you a jealousy monster??

Scene: Your bf is talking to Jessica in 2nd hour and then walks out of class with her laughing because she dropped her planner for the second time that day. You see them together and you get an uneasy feeling in your stomach. That feeling is jealousy, and it’s perfectly normal. How you react to that feeling determines whether you are a jealousy monster or a cool gf.

If you tease your bf and brush it off because you have nothing to worry about-I mean he’s with you not her right?-then you’re a cool gf.

If you yell at him and start asking questions like “Why were you flirting with her?” or “Why don’t you think I’m pretty?” then you are a jealousy monster!! What can you do to make your relationship healthy?

-Own your feelings! Jealousy has nothing to do with your bf/gf, it has everything to do with how you feel about yourself.

-Tackle your insecurity. Jealousy is a form of insecurity. Tell your bf/gf how you really feel and don’t expect those feelings to go away overnight. For the most part, jealousy shows that you have low self esteem. Know that you are worthwhile!

-Learn from the past and deal with what’s real. Realize that getting upset for no reason won’t help your situation. Look back to how this has damaged your relationships in the past.

-Get help from your bf/gf and your friends. Let them help keep you in check.

-If you can talk yourself into jealousy, you can talk yourself out of it. Don’t let your imagination run wild with thoughts. Calm yourself down by thinking, “Yea that girl was looking at my bf but I have no evidence that he wants to date her instead of me.”

Remember, it’s totally cool to be a little jealous and it may even be a little flattering, but don’t become a jealousy monster and destroy your relationship! That's just straight up unhealthy!